spoonie-living:

jenroses:

Have I told y’all about my husband’s Fork Theory? 

If I did already, pretend I didn’t, I’m an old.

So the Spoon Theory is a fundamental metaphor used often in the chronic pain/chronic illness communities to explain to non-spoonies why life is harder for them. It’s super useful and we use that all the time.

But it has a corollary. 

You know the phrase, “Stick a fork in me, I’m done,” right?

Well, Fork Theory is that one has a Fork Limit, that is, you can probably cope okay with one fork stuck in you, maybe two or three, but at some point you will lose your shit if one more fork happens. 

A fork could range from being hungry or having to pee to getting a new bill or a new diagnosis of illness. There are lots of different sizes of forks, and volume vs. quantity means that the fork limit is not absolute. I might be able to deal with 20 tiny little escargot fork annoyances, such as a hangnail or slightly suboptimal pants, but not even one “you poked my trigger on purpose because you think it’s fun to see me melt down” pitchfork.

This is super relevant for neurodivergent folk. Like, you might be able to deal with your feet being cold or a tag, but not both. Hubby describes the situation as “It may seem weird that I just get up and leave the conversation to go to the bathroom, but you just dumped a new financial burden on me and I already had to pee, and going to the bathroom is the fork I can get rid of the fastest.”

This is good, and important. Applies to many experiences, and is a great framework for understanding and coping with rough feelings.

darklingsheart3:

cardigansandcandlesonbroadway:

WE.

                  HAVE.        BEEN.
                            ALL.          BLIND.

                                              ANDYETTHEANSWERISSTARINGUSINTHE
                                                                                                  FACE. 

Exactly how he says it

westendmusicalphan:

opheliarose7:

I was tagged by @songofthesstars 

Rules: answer 20 questions so your followers can get to know you better, and tag 20 other people you’d like to know better.

name: Alyssa

nickname: none

zodiac sign: Scorpio

height: 5′2 

languages spoken: English. I also speak German and Spanish, but I’m not fluent in either (yet).

nationality: American

favourite fruit: strawberries

favourite season: autumn

favourite scent: old books, flowers, and fresh baked goods

favourite color: blue, violet, red, and black

favourite animal: dogs!

favourite fictional character: A tie between my girls Jane Eyre, Christine Daae, Sansa Stark and Hermione Granger.

coffee, tea, or hot chocolate: All of the above, but if I have to pick - coffee.

number of blankets you sleep with: Two, usually more in the winter.

when was your blog created: 2012, I believe. I don’t know why I’m still here either.

favourite subject: English, History, and languages

currently watching: The Handmaid’s Tale

favourite band: Florence and the Machine

instruments played: I used the play the piano, but I’m severely out of practice.

favourite book: Too many! Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë and Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier are probably tied for my favorite, and they compliment each other so well!

I tag: @sarahchagals @ponine @funnygirlthatgab @poor-pale-rusalka @musicals-will-be-the-death-of-me @westendmusicalphan @misskittygrimm @ashara @letheane @basementdweller @umbrellaofcherbourg @thisismyfantasyland @light-from-orion-above @mellifluamusic @hanbamblr @dangerousandnoble94 @fight-my-fury

Thank you for tagging me @opheliarose7 and I’m so sorry it took so long!

Rules: answer 20 questions so your followers can get to know you better, and tag 20 other people you’d like to know better.

Name: Rachel

Nickname: Rapunzel (I have really long hair)

Zodiac sign: Scorpio

Height: 5,1

Languages spoken: English and Spanish fluently and a little bit of German

Nationality: British

Favourite fruit: Pineapple

Favourite season: Summer

Favourite scent: Old books

Favourite colour: Red

Favourite animal: Dogs

Favourite fictional character: Erik

Coffee, Tea or Hot chocolate: Coffee because I’d die without it

Number of blankets I sleep with: 1

When was your blog created: 2 or 3 months ago (I think?)

Favourite subject: Biology

Currently watching: The Grand Tour, I’m also a lover of cars

Favourite band: My Chemical Romance

Instruments played: None

Favourite book: The Phantom of the Opera by Gaston Leroux but I also love the books mentioned by @opheliarose7 they’re my other favourites!

I’m tagging: @tetraphosphate @theres-music-in-you @meganezaru @heaven-by-the-sea @millennium-silencer @the-young-soprano-daae @youaremusic1900 @lahomie @apeachdream @a-phantom-fool @aparadepassingby @prideandpreyjudice @eponineinthebarricade @redfortphantom @phanatic01 @chrisitnedaae @pippa-writes @dxnjuan @phantomoftheoperea

Thank you for tagging me @westendmusicalphan!

This seems familiar… I feel like I’ve done this before…. But Ill do it again :D

name: call me Requiem

nickname: none

zodiac: capricorn

height: 163cm

languages spoken: can speak english and cantonese (a type of chinese). also im learning latin at school

nationality: chinese but i live in new zealand

fave fruit: kiwifruit

fave season: autumn

fave scent: new magazines. and pie/sausage rolls/baking in the oven. also roast chicken

fave colour: reddish pinky orange. its called “coral” i think

fave animal: cats or snakes or ants

fave fictional character: erik, iron man (tony stark) or heimdall from marvel maybe

coffee, tea or hot chocolate: well i prefer eating dry hot chocolate powder… so hot chocolate

number of blankets i sleep with: 2 in winter and 1 in summer

when was your blog created? in 2016 but i only started posting this year

fav subject: trombone. (it’s written as a subject on my timetable so it counts) but if not, then physics, digital tech and maths

currently watching: i dont watch tv

fave band: twenty øne piløts but i prefer classical music

instruments played: i can play piano and flute really well, i also play trombone and i taught myself recorder

fave book: The Trombone by Robin Gregory 😎

Tagging: @idog7856 @iamthemaskyouwear–itsmetheyhear @iamyour-angelofmusic @fantom-of-the-opera @nowprisoner-24601 and anyone else who wants to do it!

instead of tumblring and youtubing in the middle of the night like a normal person im repeatedly refreshing the same page of this forum im in waiting for a reply

tl:dr requiem needs to get themself together

If POTO characters were musical instruments

Christine - flute (soprano, lyrical, etc)

Erik - organ. what else? (well maybe violin)

Meg - clarinet (goes well with the flute)

Madame Giry - bassoon (stern i guess)

Piangi - trombone

Carlotta - violin maybe

André and Firmin - I’d say the conductors but they’re not really the ones in charge at the Opera House so maybe the trumpets??

>> idk what this post was, but *waves hand like Ben Lewis in Devil Take The Hindmost* enjoy.

thenintendoworldfan:

tetraphosphate:

If POTO characters were musical instruments

Christine - flute (soprano, lyrical, etc)

Erik - organ. what else? (well maybe violin)

Meg - clarinet (goes well with the flute)

Madame Giry - bassoon (stern i guess)

Piangi - trombone

Carlotta - violin maybe

André and Firmin - I’d say the conductors but they’re not really the ones in charge at the Opera House so maybe the trumpets??

>> idk what this post was, but *waves hand like Ben Lewis in Devil Take The Hindmost* enjoy.

I would say Raoul is a trumpet because he likes to draw attention, I suppose

Oh man I can’t believe I forgot about Raoul!!

If POTO characters were musical instruments

Christine - flute (soprano, lyrical, etc)

Erik - organ. what else? (well maybe violin)

Meg - clarinet (goes well with the flute)

Madame Giry - bassoon (stern i guess)

Piangi - trombone

Carlotta - violin maybe

André and Firmin - I’d say the conductors but they’re not really the ones in charge at the Opera House so maybe the trumpets??

>> idk what this post was, but *waves hand like Ben Lewis in Devil Take The Hindmost* enjoy.